Is it true that love happens at first sight? Many people do not believe in love at first sight. On the other hand, some individual feels that they fell in love the moment they had a chance to look deep into each other’s eyes. That first sight, that first moment, that first silent exchange of feelings through the eyes changed their entire life.
Perhaps it is possible to fall in love across a crowded room as the old song says. However, again, it is the eyes that hold the primary attraction. This has been shown over the ages. Romeo and Juliet also gazed into each other’s eyes while making their plans. There are many such cases, real and imagined, which are written about. Studies of the eyes when they see someone they either feel very fond of or are in love with show that the pupils widen significantly.
There have been many studies on the topic of love at first sight. According to a recent study done by University of Chicago, it can be easily determined if it is love or lust just, by the way, the people stare and their angle of stare. With the help of eye tracking, we can know if the two people are digging for love or bodies easily. Unromantic people would call it only a lust while those who believe in romance probably fantasize about this phenomenon.
They say eyes are a window into the soul. So when two people gaze at each other for the first time, what are the chances that an instant connection is established? One that does not require the crutches of words or expressions. Silence turns into a language and words become unnecessary. Is it possible today? The questions beg attention because this modern age and era are ruled by the cynic mind- one that is suspicious, questions ulterior motives, looks for doubts and secrets in the eyes. Can love at first sight still spark interest between two individuals? That depends on how a person sees the world or how willing he or she is to set themselves up for heartbreak. Love at first sight is like jumping off a cliff- not knowing whether the person will ever surface again or be pulled under for the rest of their lives. This risk, the rush of adrenaline and the forbiddenness of Love at First Sight is what makes it all the more appealing for a romantic.
Some may call it a rubbish and claim love can only be gained through getting to know each other. In order to be for someone in love you got to know all about their interests, morals and characters. On the other side, men and women love to share their stories how they met someone somewhere, and all it took was one moment, one stare, and they fell in love.
The debate is same as which come first, egg or the hen. It shall go on probably forever. Love at first sight or lust, no matter which way you look at this, it is still interesting to read stories and watch movies made on this topic.
It depends on your personal experience and how you define love, according to two experts that Tyson had on the show.
"Some people believe [love at first sight] is true because it jives with their personal experience," relationship expert Dan Savage said. "But it's a logical fallacy because you may have had the exact same initial feelings for somebody and it didn't work out. Love at first sight, hate and divorce court 15 years later."
It's easy for people to focus on the times when love at first sight lasted, and to forget about the times when they felt love at first sight toward someone who turned out to be a jerk, Tyson added.
"They remember the hits not the misses," Tyson said.
But the bottom line answer is that biologically speaking, love at first sight can absolutely happen. It just might not be true love that lasts a lifetime, said biological anthropologist Helen Fisher.
"The brain system for romantic love is like the fear system," Fisher said during the show. "You can be scared instantly and you can fall in love instantly."
Many people claim that love at first sight is really just lust at first sight. Fisher has an explanation for that too. Love and sex are very closely related in the brain, she said.
"So it's very often both," Fisher said. "You can trigger the brain circuitry for romantic love and then everything about that person is sexy from that moment on."
It works the other way too. Lust at first sight can very quickly turn into love.
"And then you can go to bed with somebody and trigger the brain circuitry for romantic love," Fisher said. "So [love and lust] can be very well-connected."
So it seems love at first sight can sneak up on us any time with very little warning.
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